When you're in love, the last thing you probably think about is whether you're going to fall out of it. Unfortunately, however, that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Though it's different for everyone, falling out of love can be just as life-altering as finding out you're falling in it.
Although time invested into the relationship can make its attempt to force you to stay and work out any negative feelings you have towards your lover, when the love is gone, it's only a matter of time before you are too. And while it may be hard to recognize when that time is, the sooner you do, the better it'll be for you both.
Here are a few signs that'll help you recognize when the spark has fizzled out.
You're fine if you don't hear from them.
When you're in a healthy, truly loving relationship, communicating with your partner is something you anticipate and enjoy doing. If it gets to the point where you aren't getting upset that this isn't happening, Gayle Johns-Carter — professional life coach and founder of Coaching Your Life's Goals— told INSIDER that you're not as much in love as you think you are.
"When you don't get upset if that so-called special person in your life doesn't call or text for days, you're not in love with them and honestly, they probably aren't either," she said. "That's a true sign that you don't care. He or she is not significant enough in your life or you may not be in theirs either."
You're consistently venting to others about them.
Venting after your lover's quarrels is definitely normal in relationships, but when you're doing it more often than not, this is a sign that something about your relationship is off. And according to Nekisha Michelle Kee, matchmaker and owner of Ultimate Match Agency, doing an excessive amount of venting actually has a name.
If you are consistently venting and seeking advice about your relationship to family, friends, counselors, and psychic advisers, it is important to know that this is a common phase called 'The Hope Search,'" she told INSIDER. "Your mind and heart are not in sync. Your mind is done, but your heart is attached to the old feelings you had when the relationship initiated. Guilt sets in and most interpret guilt as feelings of love, but it's actually the heart afraid of letting go of what is because of what was and it makes you search for hope. The heart is searching for evidence through others to prove the mind wrong. This happens a lot when you feel invested and you don't want your investment to go to waste or to feel like you've failed."
You don't enjoy being around them anymore.
Being in love with someone makes you want to be around them at all time, so if you get to the point where you want more space than usual, this should be a concern.
"If you stop laughing and no longer enjoy being around that person, this should raise a red flag," Johns-Carter told INSIDER. "When you start to realize that time spent with that special someone is no longer enjoyable or even feels necessary, you should really take a look at your deeper feelings."
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